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Articles by Roslyn Zinner,
LCSW-C
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Divorce Mediation: Make Peace for the
Kid's Sake
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Problematic Plan?
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Protecting
Your Children
In litigation, the best
interests of your children sometimes get lost in the battle, as kids
become the prize to win or lose. In court, it becomes imperative to
prove you are a better parent than the other person, and in order to
do so, each side looks for evidence the other is incompetent.
Regardless of whomever wins in court, both parents are sure to
remember the accusations that have been made by the other. The
result is the weakest possible foundation for cooperative parenting
in the future.
For a parent,
protecting your children from harm and creating a positive
environment during a divorce is a top concern. Years of research
about the impact of divorce on children clearly indicate that how
well the parents get along after divorce is one of the most
important determinants of how well children adjust. The research
also tells us that the quality of the relationship between father
and child or mother and child is what matters, not the exact number
of hours or days with each.
Mediation starts with
the assumption that both parents are competent, and that children
need both parents in their lives.
We work on developing an appropriate Parenting Plan that includes
outlining the daily and weekly schedules and holiday and summer
arrangements. You will develop an agreement on how to make decisions
about schools, medical issues, sports, friends, and all the other
crucial issues around your child's life.
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